Humans are social creatures. Even the most solitary person amongst us needs to interact with other people on occasion to feel like the best version of themselves. Relationships are the most consistent form of this crucial part of the human experience. Family, co-workers, and other connections are some of the most common and important relationships that we have in our lives, but there is only one group that we’ve customly selected for ourselves based on the good things that they make us feel - and that’s our friends. While friendship is an important part of our lives, that doesn’t mean that they come easy. Whether we’ve been burned in the past or are not the most extroverted people, there are plenty of reasons that making new friends can feel hard. But there are things that we can do to build quality friendships in our life.
Be Intentional
When seeking our friendships, we are seeking out people that uplift us while holding us accountable when we need to hear it. Many early friendships when we are younger could turn us away from seeking new friends because of how the dynamic was. Maybe we were constantly joked at, not believed in, or didn’t feel like we could be an honest version of ourselves. When looking to make friends in your new stage of life, aim to surround yourself with people that make you feel listened to, cared for, and lifted up.
Socialize
Sorry socially awkward friends, this is often a necessary step in gaining new friends. There are dating apps and social media sites to help make the process a bit easier. Another good approach to take is joining clubs and volunteering efforts that interest you. Common interests are the perfect stitch to start your friendship quilt, all you have to do is get to sewing (or whatever hobby most interests you of course!). It could look like anything from a book club to cheering on your favorite sports team to taking your dog to the local park.
Build Relationships
While it may feel like you have to jump into a completely new environment to make new friends, they may already be in your life currently. Coworkers, workout partners, fellow local music supporters, and long lost friends are just a few of the places that you may be able to work on building a deeper connection. Take a little step to get to know people better, and it could soon lead to fulfilling friendships.
Be Thoughtful (But Don’t Overthink)
As complicated as people can be, most of us can relate to this one fact. We are drawn towards genuine people who take the time to listen to others. Friendships are a two-way street so taking the effort to show that you can be an uplifting person in other people’s lives will help the same kind of people come into your life. At the same time, you don’t need to overthink all of these moments and put too much pressure on a budding friendship. Let the relationship build naturally and enjoy your part in it.
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